By Trace Embry
From experience with families in today’s culture, one of the biggest problems I see is their faulty understanding of love.
They confuse love and lust. Parents of troubled teens and at risk teens too often define love with warm feelings and emotions only. God defines love differently.
Love is Like a Car Battery
God’s definition of love is similar to a car battery.
There is a negative and a positive side–a touchy-feely warm fuzzy side as well as a tough side.
Love and discipline are not mutually exclusive as many people falsely believe.
For a car battery to function at all, the positive and the negative must work in conjunction with one another to give a charge.
There Must be a Positive…
Every good parent loves their kids. But, do they love their kids with the kind of love that God requires in the parent/child relationship? Too many parents love their kids from the positive side of the love battery only.
That’s the touchy-feely, warm-fuzzy side. Every child needs this kind of affirmation.
and a Negative…
In today’s culture, it’s the negative side of the love battery that too often gets neglected.
It’s what many refer to as “tough love.” It’s the discipline side of love.
Remember Scripture says “If we don’t discipline our kids, we don’t love our kids.”
And, like a battery, if all we do is work off the positive side of love, then love becomes as ineffective as a battery with the negative cable missing. Kids get a healthy “charge” out of life when their parents understand and exercise love from both poles as circumstances dictate.
Loving with just the positive side of love just doesn’t work. And it doesn’t work; because, it isn’t love as God defines love.
Are you loving your kids with both a negative and a positive side of love as God requires?