In today’s culture many parents worry if they are capable of keeping their teen out of trouble.
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Today I want to present you with the first of a three part series giving you the tools to take proactive steps to keep your teen out of trouble.
Every year, American families spend untold billions of dollars on residential care like Shepherds Hill Academy for their troubled teen.
Is it possible that parents could implement some of these same healing and therapeutic strategies at home—saving themselves heartache, headache and whole lot of their hard-earned money?
In some cases, we think they can by being proactive in the following areas.
Provide Unconditional Love
Regardless of behavior, teens need to know that you will always love them.
To effectively show unconditional love you need to apply love as God defines love. This means affirmation and discipline.
Be Serious about Your Faith
To take an example from the team at Shepherds Hill Academy, there is a continuity of behavior on and off the clock–in private and in public.
Essentially, your actions will speak louder than your words. Ensure you are a Father and Mother of integrity.
More than likely your teen views the body of Christ as a body of hypocrites. Be sure that you are not hypocritical in your faith. Believe it or not, your teen wants to see you committed to your faith.
Provide an Authoritative Community Environment
Shepherds Hill Academy operates from an authoritative community environment model.
Surround your teen with like minded people and ensure there are people affirming your teen with a biblical worldview at every turn.
Avoid Negative Cultural Influences
Avoiding negative cultural influences may seem difficult, almost impossible. In fact, I would say it is not possible.
However, I think, as parents we can do a much better job than we are currently doing. Here are some practical steps:
- Be more discerning in the movies and TV you let your family watch
- Monitor and limit video games and internet activities
- Limit social media usage
Evaluate and be Informed of Your Teen’s Public School
If your teen attends a public school, be involved.
In our interview with June Hunt we provide great insights about further steps you can take in being involved with your teen’s public schools.
Be Intentional with How You Allow Your Teen to Dress
Pay attention to how your teen dresses.
If their attire does not sit well with you tell them to change. Take it a step further and teach them the importance of appropriate dress.
Surround your Teen with Wisdom from Adults
Your teen is surrounded by the knowledge and opinions of their peers and Rock Star/Hollywood idols. They need an alternate voice, one that brings wisdom, logic, and truth.
Surround your teen with the wisdom from adults.
Your teen wants someone in authority to aspire to. This helps foster a sense of security within them.
Conversation Starter: Do you have any additional steps you can add to keep your teen out of trouble?
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