We gain a lot of insight explicitly about what the Bible says about parenting, and its principles span both cultures and the ages.
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But, in modern times, there have been many new components added to the parenting equation—things that are not addressed explicitly. Today, we tackle the more difficult issues in raising teens by unpacking what the Bible says implicitly about parenting.
I typically refer to these cultural issues as thorny issues. This podcast is actually part one of a two part series. To access part two click here.
At Shepherds Hill Academy we have successful outcomes in addressing cultural issues. However, because of our involvement with families in crisis with troubled teens, we also see these issues ignored by many parents.
Though parenting experts and parents may not see the need to address such issues, our experience has shown us that parents need to get a better handle on them.
1) How Should My Teen Dress?
We had a full program last week on the importance of modesty. You can access that podcast here.
Today, we discuss why this is a topic worthy of addressing. Many parenting experts bend to the sway of being politically correct on this topic. If how a teen dresses is not a concern, why do some very effective and prestigious schools require uniforms?
I’m all for allowing your teen to be stylish and even unique. However, you have to ask yourself: Is your teen’s outfit attracting negative or unmerited attention to himself/herself?
Now, more than ever in today’s culture, clothing is an outward signal of what’s going on in the inside of a person. It’s an identity thing.
In 1 Corinthians 15:33 and Deuteronomy 22:5 we see implicit guidance about how we should dress.
For example; if your son dressing like a gangster, more than likely, he will attract company that corrupts good character. This same principle applies to kids that dress to fit into the druggie crowd, the jock crowd, the goth crowd, and on and on.
If your daughter is dressing immodestly, you’d need to explore what is going on in her head and why.
2) Who Should My Teen Befriend?
What kind of friends does your teen surround himself with?
If your teen gravitates toward a peer group that is not good for him or her, it is incumbent upon you as the parent to step in and set boundaries. Do not be afraid to develop boundaries that prevent your child from befriending someone in that particular group of peers.
This same principle applies to same sex or opposite sex relationships.
The Bible discusses how bad company corrupts good character and that a friend sticks closer than a brother. Using scripture as a guideline, teach your child how to define appropriate friendships and to use discernment when choosing their friends.
3) When Should My Teen Start Dating?
A common question among parents is: When should my kids be allowed to date?
In today’s culture, it is not only unsafe but dangerous for un-chaperoned dating amongst teens.
Some parents permit their kids to date at ages 12 and 13 years old thinking it is “cute.” This isn’t the same America we grew up in. Parents cannot be naive in such a crucial area as dating.
In Ephesians 6:4 we are told about not exasperating our children. By allowing your son or daughter alone in a car with the opposite sex you are setting him/her up for failure.
If your son or daughter is interested in dating someone, get to know the parents of the person he/she wants to date.
Moreover, get to know the person your son or daughter wants to date by inviting them over for family activities.
Conversation Starter: Do you have any questions about what the Bible says implicitly about parenting? If so, please leave me your questions.
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