In my experience with the families we have worked with at Shepherds Hill Academy (SHA), I have been confronted with some unique questions.
Today I want to provide you with answers that address three unique questions that we have discussed at SHA and on License to Parent.
Should I Yell at My Teen?
One of the best ways I can think of to make your parenting experience miserable is to be a chronic yeller.
Yelling at your teen does nothing but embarrass you–all while rendering you weak and disrespected in their eyes.
Believe it or not, your teen wants action from you.
Yelling damages our kid’s self-esteem; and, because we’re often out of control when we yell–or at least we appear to be–it instills in our kids a tremendous sense of insecurity.
So, do your best to keep Christ at the forefront of your mind and set appropriate boundaries.
When the boundaries are crossed, calmly implement the consequence or warning for a first
offense, and go on about your day.
What Will Keep My Child Out of a Gang?
Everyone needs a sense of belonging. Our kids are no exception.
One reason gangs are so popular today is that it brings a young person a sense of belonging and purpose.
To satisfy this in our kids, in a healthy way, we would do well to demand that chores be done around the house. Better yet, do the chores with your child.
I’m not just talking about taking out the garbage or making the bed.
Preparing a meal together is a great way for your children to feel part of the team.
Weeding the yard or garden; planning a family vacation; planning a garage sale; or designing a room addition, are a few more ways kids can help actively participate in the vital affairs of your family.
Is My Child Too Old to Spank?
Exercising discipline in never easy–especially as our kids get older.
One unique question I’m asked is: “How old is too old to spank my child?”
Scripture seems to imply that under the right conditions one may never be too old.
But, I don’t think it’s a matter of age as much as it’s a question of “When is it appropriate and when is it effective?”
No two children are the same.
Only you as a parent can make this kind of decision, which comes from discerning your child and your circumstances.
The discernment comes from knowing our Lord and being familiar with His Scriptures.
But, nowhere in Scripture is spanking at any age, when appropriately administered by a loving parent, ever condemned.
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