What happens when what’s “in-style” seems to go against the principles of Scripture?
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How can we be fashionable without pushing the envelope of immodesty? Today, we have special guest Allison Wallace, Director of Program Development of Shepherds Hill Academy (SHA), Trace, Rich and Allison tackle the tough topic of modesty.
Allison was formerly the Program Manager of the Girls Program. She has worked intimately with the girls for 10 years. Currently, Allison oversees both Boys and Girls Programs to ensure the standard of care remains consistent. Finally, Allison is actually… my daughter. That’s right. Because Allison is my daughter she had the privilege of being involved with the kids at Shepherds Hill Academy since she was seven years old.
Since her time on the team at SHA, Allison has lead the girls in countless studies, devotions, and discussions on the importance of modesty. Today, she highlights how important choosing a modest lifestyle is in today’s culture.
Today, we highlight five truths about modesty that many parents may not be aware of.
1) You have the Right to Set Boundaries
Parents need to take ownership in what clothing their teens wear by:
- Discipline yourself to discern if what you child wears is modest or immodest
- Set boundaries that address modesty and prevent immodest apparel
- Train your child to understand the importance of modesty
2) Modesty is More than clothing choices
Modesty is actually a broad ranged topic. It is not merely how you dress. In fact, it is possible to be immodest while wearing a turtle neck.
Modesty is a communication tool and encompasses:
- Body language and non verbals
- Eye contact
- Being socially forward
- Implicite or explicite double intenders/innuendos
- Inappropriate and flirtatious interactions with the opposite sex
3) Being Immodest is a Cultural Problem
During the cultural revolution modesty did not seem like such a big deal. Contrasting that with today, there seems to be a different mindset.
Even though as a culture we were not innocent, we were much more innocent than people appear today. The reason is because the youth was pushing the envelope on immodesty, but the broader culture was pushing back against the youth for the greater good of upholding a moral standard.
Today, the culture as a whole, seems to have adopted a lower moral standard. For example: How many times have we seen a mom ecstatic about how her four-year-old is dressed like a rock star? One quick evaluation of how rock stars dress and act should tell you a four-year-old should not be mimicking a rock star.
Also, 60 years ago there was a cultural understanding of right and wrong. Today, most of that seems to have been replaced with the postmodern thought and theory “What ever feels good do it.”
4) The Church is Largely Quiet
In general, many churches seem to be adopting more of a cultural standard. It seems many pastors or youth pastors are intimidated in addressing this issue.
In essence, you would expect to see a different “dress code” in church. Instead, we generally see churches trying to stand out by compromising some standards in order to meet man’s standards instead of God’s.
5) Artists Influence Teens
Why is immodest behavior not such the stigma it once was? One explanation of this is today’s teens virtually idolize artists, musicians, movie stars and athletes.
On the big screen, many artists are singing and acting out immodest lifestyles. Artists, in general, condition their audience to accept and expect such low standards.
Even further, this low standard can become a part of the teen’s identity.
Teens are impressionable. Popular messages about promiscuous lifestyles and behaviors are influencing our culture’s stance on morality in general, but modesty in particular.
Conversation Starter: What are some truths about modesty that you face?
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