By Trace Embry
With the way our culture is today, Fathers and Mothers have good reason to be troubled parents.
In short, the entire culture has allied itself with the teenager mentality.
Parenting “Back Then”
It began with the Baby Boomers—a generation who never grew up.
This is largely because their Depression-Era parents didn’t want their little “Throckmortons” to have to go through what they went through—unfortunately, this included some of the tough character-building experiences.
What these Depression-Era parents had going for them was an entire culture that allied themselves with most of their parenting ideologies. Kids knew it too, especially the troubled teen.
Parents raising their kids just ten or twenty years ago had more of our American culture backing them up, but nothing compared to the parents of the Baby Boomers. Certainly, in the 1950’s and 1960’s parents had a built-in system of accountability by the watching eyes of neighbors, school teachers, extended family, the government, and the church.
Today, however, the cultural shift of “do what feels good” brought on by the Baby-Boomers, has come home to roost. Today’s teens are doing what feels good—and they are doing it at every turn with little or no restraints and little or no consequences.
In most cases, neighbors, school teachers, extended family, the government, or the church tend to not help parents hold their teens to a common standard of morally acceptable behavior.
Tragically; in today’s world, all of the entities mentioned above may actually be encouraging a teen to follow his heart and engage in whatever “feels good” for the moment.
Remember, Adolph Hitler followed his heart! Parents are actually fighting, not just their defiant troubled teens, but the very entities that used to be staunch allies of parents who raised their teens according to a common moral standard.
Sadly, in our ever increasingly pluralistic, postmodern, and politically correct society, a common moral standard no longer exists. This is not only breeding chaos and anarchy in our culture; but, certainly in our homes. Since parents no longer feel they have the support of government, neighbors, schools, extended families, or even the church, troubled parents and families are another result.
How to Turn the Tide
Parents, it has never been more important to understand the times we live in. Therefore, it has never been more important to equip your kids with the knowledge of Christian apologetics. I write extensively on this topic here. My radio program titled “Faith Defenders with Dr. Robert Myers” offers parents with solutions to handle issues they face in the world today.
Once your child sees the bigger picture, you won’t look so odd to your teenager anymore. Today’s teens are as intelligent as any generation in history—and they are much more informed. What they are failing to acquire is wisdom. True wisdom, of course, comes from God and should be filtered through us.
If our kids exercised wisdom, they would do more positive and constructive things with the huge access to information they have through vehicles such as the Internet. As parents, we haven’t required much of our kids. Believe it or not, if you start young enough, kids will do what’s required of them. For this cultural tide to turn, it is going to take a concerted effort on the part of today’s troubled parents.
Let us know the tough issues you face due to today’s culture when it comes to parenting?