Arguably, there are more American teenagers in therapeutic boarding schools than in any time in history.
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If your child is currently on a journey through a therapeutic boarding school – our guest, Ruben Jimenez, will provide you with the tools to prepare your family for your teen’s return home.
Ruben Jimenez shares insights from his book “The Road Home” – a guide for parents of kids who are coming home after spending time in a therapeutic treatment program. In addition to being an author, Ruben is also a speaker, coach, counselor, and licensed therapist.
I don’t want our listeners to think just because they’ve NOT had a child in a therapeutic boarding school that this podcast is irrelevant to them. What we discuss with Ruben is good for any parent to hear at any stage in their parenting journey.
How to Determine if the Therapeutic Boarding School was Successful
Parents will often ask about the success rate of the student’s who have graduated from a particular school. Rueben highlights this topic in the following ways:
- Understanding the complex answer to a success rate
- The role the parent plays in the continuation of success
- Why kids improve while at a therapeutic program like Shepherd’s Hill Academy, but once returned to the home they start to regress
How the Environment at Home Plays a Role in Success
The environment of the home plays a crucial role for when the teen returns. However, even for parents that do not have a teen in a treatment facility the same principles apply.
- Your teen needs to feel that he can safely open up about his/her struggles
- Months prior to transition, begin establishing all boundaries and rules that will be apart of the home
- Align your home with similar strategies that Christian therapeutic boarding schools like Shepherd’s Hill Academy employ
- Why humble parents that admit their faults tend to find the most success
How to Establish Healthy Boundaries
Your teen seeks a sense of security within the home. Ruben helps us see how parents can create the security your teen needs through boundaries.
- Understanding why your teen wants to hear the word “No”
- Why a structured environment catapults your teen into success
- How to appropriately forego a friendship with your teen in order to be the parent they want
How to Prepare for Your Teen’s Friends Negative Effect
Who your teen chooses as a friend could be a challenge you will face. Ruben provides us with guidelines on addressing this issue:
- Embrace the concept that, as the parent, you can establish boundaries addressing the selection of your teen’s friends
- Ruben’s three step process in selecting friends for your teen
Conversation Starter: While you may or may not have a child that has experienced life in a therapeutic boarding school, what are steps you can take to intentionally develop an environment in which your teen can succeed?