By Trace Embry
Proper parenting begins with how you perceive reality – how you view the world. This seems almost intangible in the minds of today’s parents.
In this post I want to provide some help in unlocking the mysteries of scripture to shed some light on the secret to proper parenting.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 “These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”
The Secret to Proper Parenting is…Know the Scriptures
First, notice that before we are commanded to train our children we are to have the scriptures already upon our hearts. Many will say this is impractical, but it is the most efficient way to parent. Your child needs a model; a consistent example to follow. As the leader of the home, be sure you know the scriptures, are pursuing God’s will for your life, and are living out your faith.
Impress Them on Your Children
The enlightenment era brought on a wave of “free thinking” men, whose teachings would persuade generation after generation that the old adage of “do what thou wilt” is to not only be taken literally, but to be the source in what we base all of our choices on.
In today’s culture, when your child steps foot outside your door, hundreds, if not thousands, of worldviews are vying for his allegiance. Music, movies, entertainment, the Internet, teachers, and friends are just a few sources in which your child will be tempted, persuaded, indoctrinated, consoled, manipulated, and deceived into viewing reality as something other than what biblical truths provide.
This concept was not something God overlooked. He knew how influential the sin of this fallen world would be. This is why we are told time and time again to impress, study, and know the truth of God’s word; and then we are commanded to train our children to do the same. This breeds security and confidence in all of us. It ensures that we do not have to face a culture devoid of God alone.
This is where parenting comes in. We must impress the truths of scripture into our child. How can you do this? Start by creating a vision statement for your family. I speak in detail on writing a vision statement here.
Also, implement scripture and teachable moments frequently throughout your child’s day. Surround your child with these truths day in and day out. Your child will be indoctrinated; why not let that indoctrination be cultivated and designed by the people that love him most, not a greedy culture.
Talk About These Things
Along with impressing these things on your child’s heart, it is a parent’s responsibility to consistently dialogue these truths in conversations with your child daily. Bring all your conversations back to Christ and biblical truths. Whether you are discussing a school test, your child’s latest sporting achievement, or current trials your family is enduring, openly bring biblical principles and scriptures into the conversation.
This is a big task for a lot of families in today’s culture. In a nation fascinated with pleasure and isolation, parent/child relationships has been dramatically altered. Platitudes once replaced conversation. Now, isolation and silence have replaced platitudes and pushed the concept of conversation into ancient history.
Relationship is key to having effective conversations with your child. Confidence and sound security will become a prominent part of your child’s life if you have invested the time in developing a relationship, living out biblical principles, and discussing biblical truths.
What are some insights that you have drawn from Deuteronomy 6:6-7 while parenting your child?