By Trace Embry
As Founder and Executive Director of Shepherds Hill Academy, I have had the privilege of working with troubled teens from all across America and from around the world.
As SHA graduates are transformed into upstanding contributors of society, there is one element to their success that may shock you.
Over the years, it has been a joy to see so many SHA boys and girls grow into mature men and women of faith and to pursue their dreams.
Some have pursued college degrees or gone into ministry. Others have started their families or serve the Lord in a variety of businesses, jobs, and other successful ventures in life.
A Common Element to Boys
Of all the opportunities these young men and women may have open for them at graduation, there seems to be a common path for many boys that graduate SHA and other residential programs.
Many join the the military.
But why is this important to their success?
This chosen path reflects that young men are looking for the security of structure, despite the fact that they are seeking independence.
Young men don’t just need boundaries they want them. They want a legitimate older male authority, and a sense of belonging and significance.
Dads, take note. Regardless of your son’s age, he still needs your approval, guidance, love, and accountability. These all add to the success of your son.
Many young men are without fathers. If you want to improve your relationship with your son, below are some articles that can point you in the right direction:
1) Understand the importance of an Authoritative Community
2) Learn how to develop an Authentic Relationship
3) Prepare answers for the Questions Your Teen Has
4) Learn to Develop Boundaries in your home
As 2014 is kicking off, what are some challenges you see lying ahead in developing a secure home for your child?