At a recent sporting event, I noticed a young man bungle a play that came his way because of his very slothful approach. What do you say to your teen?
His mom cried out, “Good try Ricky.” This is not something you want to say to your teen.
The Truth In Love
Furthermore, the dad responded “That’s right, reward failure.”
Do you see a problem here? Two parents, both with good intentions, but both with totally different flawed approaches.
One saw the truth without encouragement.
The other gave encouragement without the truth.
Perhaps both parents could have refrained from commenting publicly on Ricky’s poor performance. A better response could have been:
“You can do better Ricky. Get him next time.”
We will earn a lot more respect from our kids, when united as parents, and speak the truth in love.
Conversation Starter: Are we rewarding mediocre performance with cliché encouragement? What are some steps to prevent this from happening?