Ask a hundred different parents how to raise kids, and you’ll get a hundred different answers.
On today’s podcast, we discuss the pros and cons of three parenting styles you need to be aware of. The tips provided in today’s program may just help your chances with raising God-honoring young men and women.
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Shaping your Teen
I have had parents say, “I have raised my kids all the same and they all turned out different.” Ironically, their children turned out different because the parents raised them all the same.
Each of your children are uniquely made and may require a different parenting style, or a combination of parenting styles, to raise them.
The truth is, each kid is a different lump of clay that you are responsible for shaping.
I call it DNA clay.
Some of the “clay” is easy to mold because it is soft and malleable. Others, you will have to use a hammer and chisel to shape. Your child is still clay and DNA, but some of them you are going to need to chisel into shape.
I have two daughters. When raising them, one I had to chisel into shape while the other would virtually melt when I looked at her.
The parenting style I had to employ for each of my daughters was totally different, but the endgame was the same.
In the end, you want obedience and respect and you want them to be shaped and molded to have the mind of Christ.
However, one thing to keep in mind, the clay has a mind of its own and will choose what it wants to do. In the 18 years you have them, you have the responsibility to shape them toward owning a biblical worldview.
When evaluating your parenting style, there are three parenting styles you need to be aware of.
This type of style is more non-relational and is viewed as a “drill sergeant” type. This parent tends to not accept excuses.
As a result, the child may be hesitant to come to this parent because of the fear of lectures or getting berated.
This is the balance between the two continuums of Authoritarian and Permissive. The parent is more relational and communicates boundaries and discipline. This parenting style is congruent with a biblical worldview. It remains firm on principle and flexible in method.
This tends to be the problem area for many parents. A permissive parenting style essentially says the “clay” should shape itself.
In short, kids are allowed to do things they should never be allowed to do. Also, the parent does not communicate or enforce boundaries. As I have mentioned before, kids want boundaries.
This is a two part series. If you would like to listen to Part 2 click here.
Conversation Starter: Which parenting style are you more prone to use?