Last week we brought you part one of a three part series outlining proactive steps you can take to keep your teen out of trouble.
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Today we present part two as Rich Roszel and I discuss practical steps you can take to improve things in your home.
This is part two of the three part series. If you missed the first part, you can access it here.
Boundaries Must be Consistently Enforced
Parents tend to overlook the fact that kids want boundaries. It is true! Your teen not only needs boundaries, he wants boundaries.
In order to grasp this concept you need to better understand your teen. Your teen is a spirit flesh being. So, no, your teen’s flesh does not want boundaries. However, his/her spirit does.
Confused? Consider traffic lights of all things. Do you want to stop at traffic lights? Most would say no.
But, if you had to vote them in or vote them out, what would you do?
Do Not Permit Overstimulation
At Shepherds Hill Academy our teens are restoring their critical constructive and creative thinking capacity by placing boundaries and activities in their lives to prevent overstimulation.
Dr. Archibald Hart brings to light the fact that America is in a crisis. In his book Thrilled to Death Dr. Hart mentions that 80% of our teens are suffering from a condition known as anhedonia. Essentially, this is the destruction of the pleasure center of the brain due to overstimulation of media, entertainment, and/or excessive multitasking.
Parents would do well to set up boundaries to prevent this type of environment.
The documentary film Captivated provides great insight into this.
You can purchase it through our all-new License to Parent Store. By purchasing this film, and other items, through the License to Parent Store you are directly supporting the teens at SHA.
Train Up Your Child
Train up your child. This may sound vague, but engage with your child in the following:
- Proactively find teachable moments
- Bible training
- Understanding history
- Understanding the spiritual disciplines like prayer and devotionals
Create a System of Accountability
Accountability is something your teen needs.
When I think of accountability I think of someone like Simon Cowell. He may not be very compassionate, but he is known for telling the truth head on. People respect him and find him credible because he presents them with truth.
Find Positive Peer Pressure
At SHA we facilitate positive peer pressure. In the SHA culture it becomes un-cool to rebel. This facilitates a loving community.
Make sure the adults and peers in your kid’s life will uphold the same moral integrity that you do in your home.
In today’s culture, this is tough. However, to the degree you can arrange for a positive environment and positive peer pressure your teen will find security and confidence.
Conversation Starter: Do you have any additional steps you can add to keep your teen out of trouble?
Picture provided by Hans Jorg Aleff