By Trace Embry
While many fathers are increasingly elusive and/or absent in their family’s life, there are the remnant of fathers that are parenting God’s way.
If you are a father of a daughter, today’s post will provide you with some practical insight in how to appropriately affirm your daughter.
In your relationship with your daughter, there are two simple things you can do to affirm her.
She Wants to Know She is Beautiful
First, every girl wants to know she is beautiful.
In a culture that objectifies women and sets unrealistic standards on beauty, your daughter needs to be confident that she is beautiful by God’s standards.
As a father, be sure that you intentionally take the time to tell your daughter how beautiful she is. Be creative and be sure that you are genuine when you say it.
She Needs Rescuing
Every girl wants to be rescued. Many dads may not understand this concept until their baby girl becomes a young lady.
However, its no less true, no matter the age, your daughter wants someone that will fight for her.
In our ministry to families in crisis at Shepherds Hill Academy, I remember a story that highlights this point perfectly.
A young girl had just returned to campus from a home visit. She was smiling cheek to cheek. When I inquired as to why she was so happy she said, “I was going out with friends and my dad stopped me before I went out the door. He told me to go back upstairs and change clothes, and that what I was wearing was inappropriate.”
So when you see your daughter leaving the house wearing clothes that would make Lady Gaga blush, as a loving father, this is the time to rescue your daughter from herself. Unlike the example above, she may challenge your judgement; but, in the long run, you will win a fan for a lifetime.
As your daughter grows up you will face many challenges. As the father, if you appropriately affirm your daughter consistently you will notice your relationship strengthening. Below are some additional resources on how you can address modesty, dating, and other topics.
- Listen as Allison Wallace of Shepherds Hill Academy discusses Modesty
- 1 Way We Are Exasperating Our Teens
- Teenage Dating May No Longer Be an Option
I’d love to hear, what are some creative ways you appropriately affirm your daughter?