By Vikki Paese
This week I have invited guest blogger Vikki Paese. Vikki is the Family Coach at Shepherds Hill Academy, as well as one of the Equine Assisted Therapists.
Life coaching has become a very popular service these days. You may have heard of it. Typically people use life coaching to help with corporate organizations, finances, or even losing weight.
In fact, coaching of any kind essentially helps people achieve their personal goals.
Being an Equine Assisted Therapist at Shepherds Hill Academy has provided me with a unique perspective on families in today’s culture. In short, families are in need of guidance in restoring broken relationships.
Seeing the need for restored relationships lead me to become a part of the Shepherd’s Hill Family Coaching service that SHA now offers to families in need of direction. Specifically, Family Coaching helps families improve their relationships at home and with other family members.
Since my involvement with Family Coaching, I have found three key benefits that helps families restore their relationship to one another.
In becoming a coach, I learned so many things about myself, who I am, and what is dear to me. Coaching involves a LOT of deep questioning about personal and family goals. It is amazing how we have ideas of who we think we are, but when it comes down to taking an honest look at who we actually ARE, we sometimes find that those ideas may not be in line with the gifts God has given us, and for some of us – that is a relief.
Discovering who each person truly is and how they work together with others is a gift in itself. God puts each person in a family for a specific reason and then, if they are looking for it, He gives parents insights. The discovery phase is all about finding God’s will through and for your family. Sharing these discoveries can build confidence and unity within a family!
Once each member understands what things they want to change, and/or develop about themselves, and discovers what God wants for their family, they can begin to set goals.
Along with goal setting is the planning it takes to reach each goal. This is the part of family life that is easily overlooked. Many families begin with good intentions, but then, because of time constraints or tiredness, we neglect following through with the goals we originally set. Instead of getting closer, we get further from God’s purpose.
With a coach, your goals are not forgotten or set aside. On a weekly basis, the coach will hold you accountable by checking on your family progress. There is something about having a “cheerleader” for your family that helps get things moving. By having a coach your family will be guided through your family goals and will find success in overcoming life’s challenges. At times this will be hard, but that is exactly why coaching works. It helps you get past the obstacles you face.
Essential for any family! You know the saying, “all work and no play…” Through questions, answers and active listening, your coach leads you through balancing your family’s priorities taking into consideration that each member has an opinion and priorities of their own.
Good balance requires a lot of consideration, prayer, and accountability.
Deep levels of commitment and discipline are crucial to prevent family burnout. Having a coach can help you determine how to balance your family’s needs.
These are only three of the many benefits of family coaching. If you are willing to do whatever it takes to get your family on track and within God’s plan, try Family Coaching. It may just be exactly what your family needs.
I’d love to hear if there are any areas in your family’s life that could benefit from a family coach. Please feel free to leave a comment.