As a society we tend to prefer style over substance and comfort over discomfort.
As this type of postmodern thinking becomes more prevalent, how is the family being effected?
Every civil society and sane individual on the planet recognizes the need for discipline; both self-discipline and discipline that is imposed upon a person because of the lack of self-discipline to conduct his affairs according to the law of the land or the greater good.
Postmodern Discipline Gives Way to Peacekeeping
When parents refuse to exercise the proper degree of pain in the lives of their kids for rebellious behavior they become more of a peacekeeper instead of a peacemaker.
Despite what other cultural figures may think, parents cannot afford to be peacekeepers.
By becoming a peacekeeper, and foregoing proper discipline, parents become co-dependent and short-sighted parents who couldn’t dream of breaking fellowship with their kids.
This type of parenting ultimately inflicts a pain of another sort.
Subconsciously, the child is prone to grow up with seething resentment and rebellion against the parent. Ironically this pain results from the very fellowship the parents thought would bring them closer to their child.
Steps to a Troubled Teenager
When a parent does what feels good, avoids proper discipline rather than what he ought, the sin nature will bring his family to a disaster.
For example: A teenager will most often do what he wants before he will do what he ought. When this is allowed often enough he can become a troubled teenager.
Now, because we want to give teens their rights to do what they want rather than do what they ought, they are growing up in tortured environments rather than in nurturing environments.
Consequently, we are not giving them a spiritual foundation.
We want them to be free-thinkers. Instead, we are producing a generation in bondage to its own carnal lusts with no biblical knowledge or spiritual foundation and background to combat that self-enslavement.
This week we published an excellent interview with LTG Jerry Boykin that provides further insight into this issue. I’d encourage everyone to check it out.
Conversation Starter: What are some examples in your home that allows you to be a peacekeeper instead of a peacemaker?