What happens when boundaries seem ineffective once a child enters adolescence? Today’s guest, June Hunt, will help us see how parents can find a balance in boundaries as their child enters the teen years.
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Author of the book “Bonding with Your Teen Through Boundaries,” June Hunt joins Trace with an excellent interview on the importance of boundaries. June is also founder, CEO, and CSO (Chief Servant Officer) of Hope for the Heart Ministry. She is also the radio host for two programs Hope for the Heart and Hope in the Night. For more information on her resources see the show notes below.
Do Your Boundaries Seem Ineffective?
Many parents are caught of guard from the challenges they face when their loving child hits the inevitable teen years. At times, many families may feel that their teen is uncontrollable, that their boundaries are ineffective, and their family is being driven off a preverbal cliff.
In addition, teens may turn to their peers for guidance rather than looking to their parents. This leaves the parent in a situation where they may begin to compromise their boundaries and standards in a last ditch effort to remain relevant to their teen.
When the Going Gets Tough, Find the Balance
So what is a parent left to do?
In short, you must remain firm on your boundaries. It won’t be easy. Stay the course and find the proper balance between giving your child freedoms and instilling firm boundaries.
If you compromise your boundaries to avoid being labeled a villain, or to remain your child’s friend, you could become permissive.
As a result your teen will:
- Begin to disrespect your appropriate rules
- Dismiss their need for discipline
- Dismiss you and your role as a parent
In contrast, especially during the teen years, you need to love your child enough not to care what they think about you. Instead, consistently enforce boundaries no matter how difficult. As a result, you may be surprised to find that you will become your child’s friend when they get older.
Find Out More About June Hunt
You can stay connected with our guest by the following:
- Order June Hunt’s book Bonding with Your Teen Through Boundaries.
- Learn more about June Hunt, her radio program, and her ministry, at Hope for the Heart.
- Connect with June Hunt via Facebook or on Twitter @JuneHuntHope
Conversation Starter: Are there some areas in your home that you may have compromised boundaries with your teen? If so, what were the areas of weakness?