As we walk through life raising our kids, we’ll ask questions of our kids; and our kids will certainly ask questions of us.
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Our guest, Israel Wayne, will address the importance of asking good questions to facilitate relationships and genuine conversation.
We had the privilege of interviewing Israel Wayne, author of “Questions God Asks.” Israel is also a conference speaker and Homeschool Advocate. In our discussion today, Israel helps us ask good questions.
To Ask Good Questions, Look to Biblical Examples
As often as we ask God questions, we don’t often consider the fact that God may be asking us some questions occasionally. Israel helps us understand the importance of listening to the questions God asks of us.
- Usually people turn their focus on God in times of injustice, catastrophes or other traumatic events.
- In the Bible, God seems to ask his leaders questions.
- Why would an omniscient God need to ask us questions?
- When raising a teen, sometimes we ask rhetorical questions that we know the answers to in order to provide our teen with the struggle of articulating an answer. This helps reveal their own assumptions, biases, and presuppositions.
How Do We Focus Amidst Cultural Distractions
Today’s culture presents our families with distractions. These distractions can prevent us from identifying our calling. How can a parent maintain focus?
- Israel Wayne gives us the perfect analogy to maintaining focus using Adam’s relationship with God.
- How the experiential interaction Adam had with sin points us all to the only “true north” we have in today’s culture, and that is God’s Word. Israel helps us see how to stay true to this “true north.”
- Anything that contradicts the Bible is not of God.
- With the Internet and modern technology, how do we help our kids understand that the Bible is truth?
How to Ask Good Questions
Asking good questions will encourage good discussion. Israel helps us understand the importance of good questions.
- Learn to avoid accusatory questions like: “Why don’t you work harder?” This brings cynicism to the conversation and does not facilitate communication.
- Learn to utilize good communication to open the conversation.
- Good questions need to challenge the logic of your teen’s subjective view on the world.
- Learn the importance of pushing the antithesis.
- Being obedient to God and having integrity are key.
Conversation Starter: What are some sample questions you can ask your teen? Also, explain how those questions will facilitate a relationship with you.