By Trace Embry
Many parents in today’s culture have the tendency to think the best of their kid.
In today’s post I want to provide you with a way to gain an accurate point of view of your teen.
Are Kids Inherently Evil?
Each year Shepherds Hill Academy hosts a Parent Conference for parents from across America. During one of these conferences, one of our girls approached me with a very telling request.
She asked me, in sort of a frustrated tone, if I would go to her parents and tell them that evil does, in fact, exist in the world.
She also wanted me to tell her parents, that they shouldn’t always think the best of their teenager.
I also recently interviewed three men in their early twenties with the same point of view. In this interview they helped shed some light by providing parents with similar advice that teens may not be as innocent as their parents think.
I have had countless other examples similar to that of the young lady at the conference, or the young men I interviewed. In order to gain an accurate point of view of your teen, in short, he/she wants boundaries to gain a sense of protection from the evils of the world.
Think the Truth, Not the Best
This notion, unfortunately most often, seems to fall on deaf ears, and parents are too close to the situation to see their struggling teen’s cry for help and their need for discipline and consistent guidance.
In the busyness and hustle-bustle of life, parents don’t often realize the dangers of being a teenager in today’s world. Naively, they too often make the mistake of conveniently wanting to think the best of their kids when they should be thinking the truth about their kids.
I know the truth isn’t always convenient or pretty; but, at least it’s the truth—the very thing these troubled teens seek and need.
What’s the word on the street today? “Keep it real;” yet, nobody does. This offers no security for our kids struggling to learn the truth.
It sounds so noble to want to think the best of everyone—especially our own kids. But, when parents naively always think the best of their teen, when their teen really isn’t doing the best, then a sense of insecurity clouds their young mind.
This insecurity is usually what will cause a teen to seek security somewhere else. And parents often don’t like the outcome of their troubled teen’s choices when they seek to find security outside of the home.
Neville Chamberlain wanted to think the best of Adolph Hitler. You know the result of his faulty thinking. Kids will give us a tip when they need boundaries or if they are feeling insecure. As parents, we just need to be discerning to the tips they give us by opening our eyes and ears to them before they become troubled teens.
What are some leaniancies you may have naively given your teen because you thought the best of him/her?