Do you intentionally discuss and set standards for your kids?
In this post we give you two brief steps to developing standards in your home. This way you can proactively start developing standards in your home with your family.
When considering standards you need to keep in mind two things.
Clearly Identify the Standards
When setting standards in your home, be sure to consider the different areas of your home that may require them.
- Moral standards
- Educational standards
- Work ethic
- How to treat friends, family, or strangers
This certainly is not an exhaustive list.
Use the same method as to develop boundaries to develop your standards. In short, you need to create, establish and maintain a set of standards in your home to instill character into your child.
Consider How “High” the Bar Should Be Held
The next logical question to developing a standard is: How high do I hold the bar?
Perhaps one of the most godly things you can do is to be intentional about setting your family’s standards to a high level.
When pressed, most parents have never really considered where their own lines of demarcation for family standards are until they are violated. That’s usually when they consider drawing a line.
Of course, by then, habits for mediocrity and under-achievement in some of these areas have often already been unknowingly established.
After you develop your list of standards, develop a list of expectations that coincide with each standard. This way your son or daughter will know what it looks like to meet the standards you set.
Conversation Starter: What are some other steps you would advise parents in taking to developing and setting high standards in their home?